Some of the most powerful spells I’ve done have been via orgasm. I don’t call it sex magic, though. Often sex magic makes people think specifically of sex with another person magic and I don’t do that, because it’s quite a bit more complicated. (Sex with another person religious devotion? Different thing, and yes.)
Yes, that means I masturbate to do sex magic. Solo sex magic, I guess you could call it, but I don’t really consider masturbation to be sex. Fun, yes. Useful? Definitely. Sex? No. For me, sex requires a partner (or 2…or 3…whatever).
So I find it a bit more precise to refer to this type of magic as orgasm magic. The orgasm, after all, is the important part.
In order to perform successful orgasm magic, you have to remain focused on your goal. I usually fantasize anyway while I double-click my mouse so the visualization/other-sense-alization bit is easy. But for magic, instead of thinking about my fiancé’s amazing hands and phallus and tongue and teeth (OH GODS TEETH) and voice, I have to focus on what I want to achieve.
This part isn’t so easy. Focusing on the goals of magic and holding them in your mind’s eye while you rub one out is, well. It’s distracting, because your body is going OMG YES THERE YES THERE and your brain wants to head over to other YES THERE YES THERE and thinking about the power turning back on or your new laptop is maybe not sexy enough. (Or maybe it is; I’m not judging.)
But, as with anything, with practice you get better. Both at focusing and at speeding up the time to orgasm. (I find it’s best to do quick and dirty when doing orgasm magic. I can play and take my time when it’s just for fun. YMMV.)
The most effective bit of orgasm magic I ever did was to turn the power back on during an outage. I was living with my first boyfriend in Hawaii at the time and we’d been having some stormy weather. The power shut off — again — and so I clambered into the shower and used the showerhead, as per usual. (Showerheads are amazing.) The entire time I kept thinking about the power coming back on. About thirty seconds after I finished, it did.
People can cry coincidence all they like but half of what makes magic work is confidence and belief in yourself. I choose to believe it was my power that brought the lights back.
Another time I did a combination of sigil and orgasm magic. This is an idea I got from the article “Pop Magic!” by Grant Morrison, found in Book of Lies: The Disinformation Guide to Magick and the Occult. The idea is you create a sigil that represents your magical goal and spend your time wanking focusing on that sigil. At the moment of orgasm, you see the sigil blazing in your mind’s eye; you project it outwards into the world and what you wish will come to fruition.
I did it for a laptop. I got my first one less than a year later. The exact one that I did magic for, too.
(The way Morrison says to create the sigil is to write out your desire, remove the vowels, then press all the consonants together, adding or removing or changing lines as you see fit, until you come up with an appropriately witch-like symbol. I don’t remember much else; it’s been a while since I read the article. If this interests you, though, I recommend checking out the book. It’s linked above.)
Another important thing is I need to make sure I’m not going to be disturbed! Getting a phone call in the middle of masturbating is annoying, sure; getting one in the middle of orgasm magic? You’re going to have to start over, probably.
So. Put your phone on vibrate (ba-dum-TISH), lock your door, make sure you’re alone and undisturbed for however long it’ll take.
This may mean waiting until nighttime to try out orgasm magic. That’s fine, especially if you think you’ll need to sleep afterwards.
In my opinion, orgasm magic is one of the easiest ways to accomplish spellwork. So, here are the basics:
- visual/othersense-ization! Keep focused on what you want, whether you do it by an abstract sigil or with one, clear thought in your head. Find what works for you; find something you can focus on without getting distracted by the fact that your hands are doing magic on your whatever.
- speed up that process. I masturbate pretty much daily, so I have plenty of time to play around with myself and have fun. If I’m doing orgasm magic and I need to focus, taking my time means more chances for me to be distracted. (Also means more chances for my fingers to cramp and then the whole thing is out the window.) Fastest route possible means more effective spellwork.
- set aside a time to do it. This is more important with orgasm magic than with other spellwork. Make sure you’ll be undisturbed for as long as you need.
Feel free to experiment, play around, figure out what works for you. This is just what I do. It won’t work exactly that way for everybody.
(Sex magic with another person is very similar: focusing on a goal while working yourself up to orgasm. However, it’s most effective if all people involved are focusing firmly on the same thing, and if orgasm is reached simultaneously. Honestly, that’s too much stress to put on my sex life and solo sex magic works just fine for me. YMMV, as always.)